My body image advice for younger people
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Good fat people, healthcare and the edge
One part of interacting with healthcare providers while living in a fat body is that your value and worth as a patient are always, always…
Ask Lindley: Thin privilege, rage and the spotlight
My friend P. asks, “It was a total shock to me to be told that I’m small fat. For me it was like being told…
It’s definitely the fat kids’ fault.
Image description: A fat white baby’s arm is partially seen between an overlapping floral blanket, blue onesie sleeve and the body and strap of a…
How would you know?
When someone in a marginalized body shares a deep fear with you and your first answer is, “Well, I work in that field and I’ve…
Are you not angry, too?
You can assign points to food and you can talk about calories in calories out and you can talk about willpower and you can talk…
The Fat Lady Sings: Die Lotosblume and Mondnacht
I prepared these two German pieces for an audition and they’re both so floating and lovely! “Die Lotosblume” (“The Lotus Flower”) is a poem written…
Let’s talk about the Renfrew Center, Harin Feibish and the persistent fear and hatred of fat and fatness in eating disorder treatment.
View this post on Instagram A post shared by Lindley Ashline (she/her) (@bodyliberationwithlindley) on Aug 26, 2020 at 9:29am PDT I never intended to get…
For the folks who are losing it
The first two paragraphs of the thought below deserve a content note for violence and fat hatred, though the rest doesn’t. Please protect yourself as…
The mental load of living in a fat body
Today I’m thinking about the mental load of living as a fat person and how it’s affected by one small example: this Renfrew newsletter mess.…
“In The Grip Of Hunger” (probably the most triggering thing I’ll post in 2020)
Content note: Open bigotry; fatphobia in a medical and healthcare treatment setting. Image is Edvard Munch’s “The Scream.” “As I sit across from my 5’…
When you speak, who listens?
Imagine a (pre-COVID) concert hall, filled with a cheering, applauding crowd. Imagine a stage full of performers in bright colors and full voice. Imagine a…
The Fat Lady Sings: Lindley sings the Dew Fairy Aria
This was one of my most memorable recital songs! Not only is the composer’s name (Engelbert Humperdinck) fun to say, but playing the Dew Fairy…
Are you a fat admirer? If so, take these 10 steps immediately.
Dear fat admirers and chubby chasers: We don’t care whether you find us attractive. At all. Every time I talk about the innate desirability, attractiveness…
Should you set boundaries on your Facebook posts?
“All relationships need boundaries. A boundary is an imaginary line that separates me from you. They separate your physical space, your feelings, needs, and responsibilities…
Our pain ≠ your gain
Please stop asking us to describe our pain for your gain. You’re preparing a presentation for your colleagues, or your class, or your professional society…
The mysterious case of the plus-size clothing consumer.
I was standing in the aisle between cubicles when I turned my back, gritted my teeth and said, rather shortly, “No, really, you can check…
Our bodies should not be shorthands.
When you live in a fat body, you live in a world where bodies like yours are so far outside the norm that they’re only…
I don’t know how to make you care about fat people.
I didn’t want to write this today. My emotional strategy in this time of pandemic has consisted of three parts: Stay informed of every news…
Maybe you just didn’t want to shimmer badly enough.
What would happen if paint became a Big Thing? In fact, what would happen if one specific paint brand became a Big Thing, to the…
“Hold still. You deserve this.”
Hi friend, what’s it like to go to the grocery store while thin? Let me tell you what it was like to go to the…
The Fat Lady Sings: Lindley sings Bachianas Brasileiras no. 5
This lovely piece is one of a set of fusions of Baroque and Brazilian music by the Brazilian composer Heitor Villa-Lobos. (Thanks, Wikipedia) This isn’t…
You are freaking allowed.
For those of us in larger bodies, it can feel like we’re hemmed in all around with barriers and gates and forms to be submitted…
The cruelty is the point.
Cruelty is an inherent part of diet culture. Diet culture gives us a dichotomy: bodies are either good (thin) or bad (fat). In this framework,…
The Fat Lady Sings: Lindley sings Handel’s Te cum principium
This is an oratorio piece from the Dixit Dominus, a psalm setting by George Frideric Handel (catalogued as HWV 232). It uses the Latin text…
You are allowed to cut off contact
Just in case you need a reminder today: Cutting off contact with toxic people, or setting a no-contact or minimal-contact boundary for yourself, is a…
The Fat Lady Sings: Lindley sings Time to Say Goodbye/Con Te Partiro
This is of course the song with a famous rendition by Andrea Bocelli and Sarah Brightman. “Con te partirò” was never part of an opera,…
Sweet Amaranth is now Body Liberation Photography
“Oh, phew,” said the client I’d just finished photographing yesterday, as we stood in her office. “That makes so much more sense. I found you…
Noodling on social media and blogging
Let it be entered into the permanent record that I’m actually managing to take it relatively easy this week. I’m slowing down a bit, relaxing…
LISTEN: Lindley on the Fat Face Feelings Podcast (with Transcript)
It’s always a delight to talk with one of the Fat Faces, Eron, and this time we did it on the record! (Amanda is also…
{beautifully organized} How to turn a morning routine into a daily confidence boost
If you’ve ever met me, it’s pretty easy to figure out that I’m seriously, seriously type A. I keep lists of my lists, and my…
studio details, january
It’s a rare day of winter sun here outside Seattle, and I’m puttering around my portrait studio here at Alcove House, drinking in the light…
haute couture
“Sorry, I don’t think she heard you,” said my husband to someone standing behind me. I turned from my observation about the price of cashews…
the worst french braid
This French braid is askew. It’s crooked. There are stray locks everywhere, the tension is all wrong, and the hair elastic is placed far too…
wild geese
You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.…