
On the choice of “fatphobia”
Sometimes a stray comment or post on social media will spark something in my mind, and suddenly I have an opinion on it. This time…
Sometimes a stray comment or post on social media will spark something in my mind, and suddenly I have an opinion on it. This time…
This piece originally appeared over at the NAAFA blog. Loving, admiring, and respecting fat bodies can be really hard for people to grasp. We as…
I want to follow up on my earlier piece about AI-generated artwork. People who are into AI art are telling me that this is a…
What I’ve been up to lately, in no particular order: ยป My new Maya Kern and SergleShop skirt came in! ยป Twirling in this skirt.…
For the month of December, enjoy these podcast episodes while I slow down, take a breath and plan for next year.
I wasn’t consciously thinking about @ragenchastain and her approach to running (slow and steady) when I climbed part of this trail in Mt. Baker National…
In which I talk about how and why I chose Discord for my body-positive, fat-positive community space. To get access, support my Patreon at any…
In which I talk about whether love is enough to salvage a relationship, whether people can change the direction of their relationships and whether you…
In which I demonstrate a) repotting tradescantias and b) why I’m not a plantfluencer. No apologies for the terrible video.
I’ve had a few requests to see my high-humidity plant setup. I am constitutionally incapable of making a short video, but here you go!
I had the pleasure of meeting this chatty gent last week and couldn’t resist capturing him enjoying some late afternoon sun! Sarah at @bodypositiveparenting is…
There was an interesting discussion today in a Facebook group Iโm in about how to keep from being sucked into and swallowed by other peopleโs energy when itโs negative or doesnโt align with your own. Here is my answer.
I wrote this in a moment of frustration recently and wanted to share it even though it’s not really meant for my folks here, because…
I’m old-fashioned and still buy all my music, because I’m super picky about what I listen to and I like owning my mp3s. (I once…
My Seattle photography office is where I spend most of my time. This is where some of my most precious things live, where my cat Blue hangs out, where I edit photos and post to social media and hold remote client photo reveals. Here’s a tour.
I don’t want to reclaim Ursula. Released in 1989, Disney’s animated movie The Little Mermaid struck me at a formative time in my life. Ariel…
I recently talked about how people who are privileged in a particular area often expect people who are marginalized in that area to educate them,…
The Pacific Northwest is heading into an extraordinary weather event, where Seattle could reach 104 degrees for at least two days in a row, and…
Here’s one concrete action you can take to help end weight stigma: Stop saying that weight loss doesn’t solve anything. And I’m going to need…
Image description: A fat white woman in a short-sleeved red dress sits in front of a stone wall and shrugs. There’s a pattern I’ve seen…
Image description: A low, tree-covered island is silhouetted against a bright sky and calm water. As the extreme pressure from employers to return to the…
Image description: A green glass bowl of smooth pebbles in soft red and green tones and mixed sizes, stones Lindley found in a river in…
When I developed sleep apnea suddenly in 2020 during a series of major dental work, I had no idea that getting diagnosis and treatment would…
When I developed sleep apnea suddenly in 2020 during a series of major dental work, I had no idea that getting diagnosis and treatment would…
When I developed sleep apnea suddenly in 2020 during a series of major dental work, I had no idea that getting diagnosis and treatment would…
When I developed sleep apnea suddenly in 2020 during a series of major dental work, I had no idea that getting diagnosis and treatment would…
Image description: An animation of small waves washing up on the sand behind a driftwood log. Deception Pass, Washington state. When I developed sleep apnea…
When I developed sleep apnea suddenly in 2020 during a series of major dental work, I had no idea that getting diagnosis and treatment would…
Bear with me for a moment while I get a bit nerdy. Trust, there are fat politics coming up, as usual. Especially during these pandemic…
Here’s one simple action you can take to help end discrimination against fat bodies this week: Believe fat people when we say something is fatphobic, specifically the works of Brenรฉ Brown, Anita Johnston, Geneen Roth and Bessel van der Kolk.
Content note: COVID-19, weight discrimination in a healthcare setting I had a COVID scare last weekend. On Saturday, I woke up with a sore throat,…
Image description: A set of small terra cotta pots in a cardboard box on a white desk, with a lamp, water bottle and plastic box…
Image description: A plus-size woman poses in front of a sunset-lit city skyline and water with one arm in the air and the other wrapped…
Image description: Three fat women stand back to back with hands entwined in a grassy park. In a fat-folks-only Zoom call last night, a friend…
One of the most common pieces of pushback I see against fat acceptance and the need to represent fat and very fat people is, “Why are you so negative? Can’t we all just celebrate all the progress that’s been made? You’re so divisive!” It’s often accompanied by more-enlightened-than-thou comments about wanting to focus on “the good,” as if those of us confronting oppression are somehow more negative than those who want to cover up and ignore it.
Image description: The side rolls of a fat body are shown in a black-and-white photograph, with highly textured skin. An excellent question came up on…
Image description: A fat woman’s shoulder, side rolls and hip are shown in a black-and-white photograph. During this pandemic, so many people are finding that…
Image description: An abstract light blue watercolor background with the words, “Stop appropriating the experiences and oppression of people who are fatter than you.” Lindley’s…
If we could opt out of oppression, would we still “deserve” it?
Image description: A fat blonde woman in a bikini with visible side rolls sits on a vintage red suitcase at the edge of the water…
My Thanksgiving cactus is blooming! I’ve had it for two or three years and this is the first year I’ve gotten it to rebloom. Three…
Image description: Lindley, a fat white woman with shoulder-length blonde hair, glasses and a sleeveless heart-polka-dot dress, stands with her arms raised and resting on…
Reader E. asks, “Dear Lindley, I’m working on accepting my body, but it’s so hard to sit at work and have to listen to diet talk all the time. How can I deal with this?”
Image description: A small houseplant with round fleshy leaves, called a peperomia hope, sits in a round terra cotta bowl on a white desk. I’ve…
Image description: A thin white man with close-cropped hair is shown from the neck up in two shots, side by side. In the first, he…
Image description: A fat white women with shoulder-length blonde hair is shown in a black and white image with a black drape just covering the…