In which I talk about fat shame around toilet seats. If you’d like to represent actual fat people in your marketing, check out my inclusive stock photo site by clicking Stock Photos at the top of the page, and get three free stock photos every month by signing up for my newsletter:
In which I talk about how well the standard marketing advice of “be yourself and be authentic” works for marginalized business owners, and balancing safety + authenticity. Get three free high-resolution, body-positive stock photos for your business every month with my newsletter:
Fat people suffer worse health outcomes due to weight stigma? Blame fat people and call them inherently diseased. Fat people are more at risk from COVID due to biased healthcare? Blame fat people and tell them they deserve it. Fat people can’t buy attractive, well-fitting clothing? Blame fat people and call them frumpy and unfashionable….
When you think about bodies — your own or other people’s — what words do you use? Our thoughts and feelings about bodies are shaped by the words we use to describe them. Here are 40 kind, loving descriptive words to replace the negative ones we’ve been taught. Find the written post at https://www.prospecttherapy.com/blog/2018/8/13/guest-blog-post-40-kind-and-positive-words-for-your-body, and…
In which I talk about the hashtag #normalizenormalbodies and whether it’s a good thing.
“You would be surprised how seldom it occurs to people that their problems are not their fault. By focusing on fairness and justice, a patient may have a chance to find what has so frequently been lost: an ability to care for and stand up for herself. Guilt can be replaced with a clarifying anger,…
In which I discuss why you might not get the reaction you want or expect when you interact with fat folks in the fat acceptance, body positivity or Health at Every Size® movements. (There’s a version with subtitles on Instagram.) ◇─◇──« »──◇─◇ Hi there! I’m Lindley (she/her, pronounced LIN-lee). I create artwork that celebrates the…
Reader M. asks, “Does it get any easier? Or does it just get harder the more vocal you get? I had a situation in which my admin team of my local athletic group, all thin or smallfat women with the exception of me, did not back me up when I called out some inspiration porn…
Children begin absorbing and reflecting weight stigma as young as 3-5 years old. That’s how pervasive anti-fat bias is in our society, and it’s wrong and oppressive to have generations of children growing up pre-prejudiced against other humans simply for the size of their bodies. And, of course, what does that do to developing minds,…
“Conventionally attractive” equals “willing to put in the time, effort, money, resources and pain and suffering required to gain social approval.” These are personal choices; (all people who identify as) women are equally valuable no matter which choices they make; and women are free to make the choices that work for them in their lives….
In which I discuss the audacity of thin privilege, what “everybody knows” about fat bodies, how even “bad” bodies deserve dignity, and the desperation behind enforcing oppressive systems.
Why do some business owners wear their opinions, politics and activism on their sleeves? Let’s talk about “keeping politics out of your business” and why that’s not an option for marginalized people. ◇─◇──« »──◇─◇ Hear more from me on body politics, oppression and body image:
Let’s talk about shame. Should we feel ashamed when someone challenges something we say? Is it true that when we object to someone else’s words, we’re shaming them? ◇─◇──« »──◇─◇ Hear more from me:
Let’s talk about shame. Should we feel ashamed when someone challenges something we say? Is it true that when we object to someone else’s words, we’re shaming them? See a version with subtitles: https://www.instagram.com/p/CTqH6GqgEwY/
Did you know that Plan B (also known as the morning-after pill) is only effective for people who weigh 155 pounds or less? Fat people are left out of medical testing, equipment design, research and medication dosages. Privilege is unearned, but it’s not something you need to feel bad or guilty about. Let’s work to…
Today The Fat Athlete and I were talking about body image and how it’s a never-ending journey. It’s easy to think that a positive or healthy body image, or body acceptance, is a destination that some lucky people have reached and you just can’t seem to find. But no matter how much work we do…
Why do some business owners wear their opinions, politics and activism on their sleeves? Let’s talk about “keeping politics out of your business” and why that’s not an option for marginalized people.
Reader M. asks, “Does it get any easier? Or does it just get harder the more vocal you get? I had a situation in which my admin team of my local athletic group, all thin or smallfat women with the exception of me, did not back me up when I called out some inspiration porn…
The desk top stops at a sharp slant, unable to lie flat because of my belly and thighs in the way, and the angle is such that I will not be able to set anything on it, use my laptop, or even take handwritten notes.
Thin privilege is never having your body shape used as a shorthand in books, comic books and movies for gluttony, greed or villainy. If a fictional villain is shown in a thin body (e.g., Maleficent), we know that she is villainous due to her actions. (Along with musical and timing cues, as well as other…
Why do people hate and fear fat bodies? Weight stigma — also known as fatphobia, fatmisia, anti-fatness and fat hatred — ties into threads of power and profit going back centuries. Let’s look at one of the factors: Other industries. From the beauty industry to the wellness industry, dozens of major industries reap the financial…
I recently challenged my Body Liberation Guide readers to answer the question, “What is valuable and precious about fat bodies beyond being a comfort object? How many things can you think of?” Reader Bee Gee’s response was wonderful and glorious, and they generously gave me permission to share it. Read the list at http://bit.ly/guestbeegee!…
What’s the difference between body positivity and fat positivity? How about body liberation or Health at Every Size (also called HAES)? Here’s a quick look at the terms and definitions I use in my body liberation work. Hear more from me:
Weight stigma is absolutely ubiquitous in healthcare. We know from studies that doctors treat fat folks differently. Many doctors assume that we’re lazy, gluttonous or noncompliant just from our body sizes, and a significant number don’t even want to touch us. Here’s a little of my own story about fatphobia, fatmisia and weight stigma in…
Recently I saw a comment from a fitness professional that got me thinking. She said that she wants to help people in bodies of all sizes get to the “happy place” of exercise. But it got me thinking. There are of course people who simply don’t get that kind of happy-making charge from body movement….
I recently challenged my Body Liberation Guide readers to answer the question, “What is valuable and precious about fat bodies beyond being a comfort object? How many things can you think of?” Reader Bee Gee’s response was wonderful and glorious, and they generously gave me permission to share it here.
Thin privilege is getting in and out of your car in a crowded parking lot. It’s never having to try to crawl through your passenger side — or your trunk — to access the driver’s seat. It’s never having to ask, and then trust, a stranger to back your car out of a parking space….
Thin privilege is a higher likelihood of being taken seriously in business and entrepreneurial contexts. Participating in business-related spaces as a fat person is exhausting. Other entrepreneurs and business owners don’t think my target market is a “real” market worthy of being served. I’m treated like I can’t possibly know the first thing about business…
Whether you’re preparing for fall marketing campaigns or grabbing last-minute photos for blog posts, seasonal images are always useful. Try using body-positive fall stock photos to convey not only a sense of timeliness, but also a warm, colorful, comfortable feeling. Here are 16 body-positive, fat-positive and diverse stock photos with a fall feeling. Use…
I recently talked about how people who are privileged in a particular area often expect people who are marginalized in that area to educate them, give them ideas and even fix their organizations for free. I’m also thinking about people like @ragenchastain, who answer literally thousands of emails per month to provide free labor around…
Why do people hate and fear fat bodies? Weight stigma — also known as fatphobia, fatmisia, anti-fatness and fat hatred — ties into threads of power and profit going back centuries. Let’s look at one of the factors: The diet industry. Worth $72 billion in 2020, the diet industry is one of the obvious culprits…
I wrote this in a moment of frustration recently and wanted to share it even though it’s not really meant for my folks here, because the very nature of a blog is to be consumed. To be clear, lurking is fine! No one owes me interactions or a relationship. But there are an awful lot…
Our fat bodies are valuable for more than what they offer other people. So often, when people try to come up with something good about fat bodies, the first and only idea is “comfort.” So many folks have fond memories of snuggling with lovely warm soft fat bodies as children, or snuggling their own children….
Turns out I didn’t have enough spoons to both record this AND write a nice post for it, so in summary: 👗 Fabletics👗 Old Navy👗 Supporting companies that don’t carry your size👗 @saucyewest👗 #fightforinclusivity👗 I still have way more of a southern accent than I realized
I recently talked about how people who are privileged in a particular area often expect people who are marginalized in that area to educate them, give them ideas and even fix their organizations for free. I’m also thinking about people like @ragenchastain, who answer literally thousands of emails per month to provide free labor around…
Our bodies are valuable for more than what they offer other people. So often, when people try to come up with something good about fat bodies, the first and only idea is “comfort.” So many folks have fond memories of snuggling with lovely warm soft fat bodies as children, or snuggling their own children. After…
🎉🎉 GIVEAWAY DAY 🎉🎉 I’m excited to be giving away two pairs (four total) tickets to the BodCon’s Beauty and Body Confidence event (online) on August 31! I’m not affiliated with this event, but when they contacted me I was impressed by the range of body sizes, identities and heritages of their speaker lineup. Giveaways…
Content note: Trauma, water fear, injury Every time I get into wild water (not a pool or hot tub), it’s a victory over my anxiety disorder. When I was about 13, I went wading in the ocean at a church camp on the North Carolina coast. I loved ocean swimming and had zero fear. The…
Weight stigma — also known as fatphobia, fatmisia, anti-fatness and fat hatred — ties into threads of power and profit going back centuries. Let’s look at one of the factors: Toxic masculinity and sexism.
Here’s something to think and write about in this coming week: If you were able to show up fully in the world, without body shame, what might that mean for you and your life?
Ask Lindley: How can I live in a world that hates my fat body?
Thin privilege is never being denied the ability to immigrate due to your body size.
Hubby took these photos of me and I’m in love with them. (And him, too.)
Why do people hate and fear fat bodies? Weight stigma — also known as fatphobia, fatmisia, anti-fatness and fat hatred — ties into threads of power and profit going back centuries. Let’s look at one of the factors: Political power. We have a recent example of a fat man as the U.S. President, but here…
Why do people hate and fear fat bodies? Weight stigma — also known as fatphobia, fatmisia, anti-fatness and fat hatred — ties into threads of power and profit going back centuries. Let’s look at one of the primary factors: Racism. As ably described in great depth in Sabrina Strings’ recent book Fearing the Black Body,…
I promised I’d make more videos, but speaking off the cuff makes me so nervous! So I’m sharing a trick I recently learned for helping myself AND other people feel more comfortable in social situations. Click through and watch it on Instagram for closed captions/subtitles. I’m a photographer, writer and fat acceptance activist. Dive deep…
Here’s something to think and write about in this coming week: If you were able to show up fully in the world, without body shame, what might that mean for other people in your world? You’re welcome to share your answers on the Instagram post (as long as they meet the space boundaries in my…
Thin privilege is not having your “health” status be constantly the focus of, and scrutinized by, an entire culture. A comment from @conceivingitall in a discussion we had the other day made me realize how much fat folks’ health* is a cultural obsession. When you live in a fat body, your health is public property….
Fat people MUST be treated as the experts on our own lives, bodies and oppression. Must. Here are 5 reasons to learn about weight stigma from fat people. 1. Learning about weight stigma from people with thin privilege deprives the people most affected by fat hatred of the opportunity to speak authentically about our lived…
Ultimately, you can’t change hearts and minds that don’t want to change. Here’s how to convince people to stop dieting or being fatphobic.
