An equalizer graphic, a thumbnail photo of Lindley and an audio excerpt from the podcast.
| | | | | |

Race, Weight and Oppression: Lindley on the Mindful Miri Podcast

It was a pleasure to appear on the Mindful Miri podcast! In this episode, we discuss issues of race, weight, and systems of oppression. Other themes: Β» Embracing our true selves Β» #bodypositivity for larger bodies Β» How systems are not built for all sizes Β» weightstigma as an offshoot of #racism Transcript Excerpt “It’s…

A white person's belly with stretch marks, plus partial views of their bra and panties.
| | |

Weight-loss surgery, person-first fatness and a new narrative

Have you seen any of these messages lately, implied or said outright? Fat people are addicted to food Ob*sity is the opposite of anorexia Fat people will inevitably have health conditions due to their fatness Fat people are fat because they’re sick, not because they’re lazy, WLS, unlike dieting, is the one successful way to…

Lindley, a fat white woman with shoulder-length hair and glasses, stands in a garden wearing a dress and holding a pair of garden clippers. She's smiling mischievously.
| | |

On the choice of “fatphobia”

Sometimes a stray comment or post on social media will spark something in my mind, and suddenly I have an opinion on it. This time it was a comment on a fat activist’s Instagram post informing the activist that they shouldn’t be using the term “fatphobia” because “people aren’t afraid of fat people, so it’s…

A fat woman wearing red panties poses to the side; the text reads "The Plus-Size Guide to Period Panties"
| | |

The Plus-Size Guide to Period Panties

Maybe you remember the advent of (mainstream anyway) period panties from a few years back? For a long time, there were no options to speak of for fat bodies, but no more! Here are nine options to choose from, carrying a range of sizes up to a U.S. 48W. In case you’re wondering, period panties…

The choice of β€œfatphobia” | The Body Liberation Guide
| |

The choice of β€œfatphobia” | The Body Liberation Guide

Sometimes a stray comment or post on social media will spark something in my mind, and suddenly I have an opinion on it. This time it was a comment on a fat activist’s Instagram post informing the activist that they shouldn’t be using the term “fatphobia” because “people aren’t afraid of fat people, so it’s…

Your body image is not like my body image. | The Body Liberation Guide
| |

Your body image is not like my body image. | The Body Liberation Guide

This week on Patreon, I’m launching the Body Liberation Guide+, a patron-only supplement to the free public Body Liberation Guide newsletter (this email!) I send out every week. Here’s what you can expect in the BLG+:  More of The Conversation and event updates Handy links to this week’s supporter-only updates Journal prompts and discussion topics from the Body Liberation…

A neatly self-solving problem | The Body Liberation Guide
| |

A neatly self-solving problem | The Body Liberation Guide

If you’ve been a subscriber for a bit, you know I produced anΒ entireΒ guideΒ to that awful fatphobic movie The Whale.Β Β  I’m not a pop culture kind of person and I don’t watch movies (due to my neurodivergence making it difficult), so I’d be perfectly happy never to think about that movie again. But with awards season…

This? Is not that. | The Body Liberation Guide
| |

This? Is not that. | The Body Liberation Guide

Here’s one simple action you can take to help end discrimination against fat bodies this week: Stop appropriating the experiences and oppression of people who are fatter than you.Β  If you live in a body that is of average size (the average American woman wears a size 14-18) or a bit larger (what some folks…

On sticking your neck out. | The Body Liberation Guide
| |

On sticking your neck out. | The Body Liberation Guide

Here’s one simple action you can take to help end discrimination against fat bodies this week: Stick your neck out. Quite often these days, thin (usually white) folks feel the need to message me and tell me about how they were going to speak up about this harmful action or that piece of fragility, but…

A fat white person's stomach rolls, tattooed arm and part of their bra-covered chest. They're at a body-positive portrait and boudoir session in Seattle.
| |

“Fat people who love themselves scare the shit out of people who don’t love themselves.”

“Fat people who love themselves scare the shit out of people who don’t love themselves. Even fat people trying to love themselves scare the shit out of people who can’t do the same. We force people to have to look at why they hate their bodies because we are “supposed” to hate ours and we…

Why aren’t we just celebrating?  | The Body Liberation Guide
| |

Why aren’t we just celebrating? | The Body Liberation Guide

It’s a privilege to focus on the gains of body positivity when fat people are still left out. One of the most common pieces of pushback I see against fat acceptance and the need to represent fat and very fat people is, “Why are you so negative? Can’t we all just celebrate all the progress…

Let me tell you what I would do | The Body Liberation Guide
| |

Let me tell you what I would do | The Body Liberation Guide

Often when I post about the way I as a very fat person am treated, I’ll get responses along the lines of, well, you just have to be confident and stand up for yourself and people won’t treat you like that. Or, here’s what I would do in that situation (insert behavior that’s very aggressive,…

You weren’t born with this | The Body Liberation Guide
| |

You weren’t born with this | The Body Liberation Guide

If you’ve been around here for any length of time, you know I talk a lot about anti-fatness, but I’m including a content warning today specifically for what I’m going to link to for its extremity. I had planned to send this letter to you today anyway, but coming across this video from a thin…

A magenta background with the words, Next time a fat person talks about weight stigma and your gut reaction is, "Well I'm fat and that's not a problem for me/I've never seen that," consider that you might not actually be particularly fat.
| | |

The experiences of larger fat people are very, very different from those of smaller fat people and average-sized people.

The experiences of larger fat people are very, very different from those of smaller fat people and average-sized people. If you’ve never experienced, seen or heard of a particular type of weight stigma or an experience a fat person is describing, there’s a good chance you’re simply not fat enough to be treated that way….

BMI is Bullshit: The Art of Dani Ward at Fat Girl Media
| |

BMI is Bullshit: The Art of Dani Ward at Fat Girl Media

I’ve just met (virtually — we live across the U.S. from each other) Dani of Fat Girl Media, and they’re super cool! I’ve been admiring their artwork for years and it was an honor to get to talk to them. Here are a few of their designs, shared with permission. One of the things we…

What fat liberation means to me: It’s not just about “all bodies”
| | | | | |

What fat liberation means to me: It’s not just about “all bodies”

This piece originally appeared over at the NAAFA blog. Loving, admiring, and respecting fat bodies can be really hard for people to grasp. We as a culture have been trained by: Centuries of sexism and racism that women are sexual objects 75 years of diet culture that thin is beautiful and sexy And decades of…

Fat liberation: It’s not just about β€œall bodies” | The Body Liberation Guide
| |

Fat liberation: It’s not just about β€œall bodies” | The Body Liberation Guide

I hope you had a wonderful holiday season. Mine was spent mostly resting my hand and recovering from this tendon injury. I’m about 50% better – not well enough to book photo sessions yet, but quite a bit better than I was, which means there are a lot fewer cusswords drifting through the house as…

From my lips to your ears | The Body Liberation Guide
| |

From my lips to your ears | The Body Liberation Guide

This is my last letter for 2022; you’ll next hear from me on January 9. Tonight I’m headed to a Zoom cookie-baking event with friends, and have a nice quiet holiday planned otherwise. I hope that the rest of this month is filled with joy for you. As the Twitter chaos continues, more and more…

[Image: A fat white woman with pink hair stands on the shore of a wooded lake in a purple sleeveless dress, with a wing-print scarf blowing in the wing behind her outstretched arms.]
| | |

Exploitation cannot birth liberation

I want to follow up on my earlier piece about AI-generated artwork. People who are into AI art are telling me that this is a chance for fat people to see themselves represented and change their body image. But there’s a problem: exploitation will not create liberation. Here’s just one of the images that was…

Exploitation cannot birth liberation. | The Body Liberation Guide
| |

Exploitation cannot birth liberation. | The Body Liberation Guide

I want to follow up on my previous Body Liberation Guide about AI-generated artwork. People who are into AI art are telling me that this is a chance for fat people to see themselves represented and change their body image. But there’s a problem: exploitation will not create liberation.

Body-positive business practices, part 5 | The Body Liberation Guide
| |

Body-positive business practices, part 5 | The Body Liberation Guide

Though I ended up catching the stomach flu* and having to rest and isolate for the last part of the retreat, our attendees had a fabulous time and it was such a satisfying experience. There really is no substitute for in-person fat community.Β (*confirmed by PCR testing that it wasn’t COVID)Β  Also, I’ve beenΒ featured in a…

Part 4 of body positive business practices | The Body Liberation Guide
| |

Part 4 of body positive business practices | The Body Liberation Guide

Since I first wrote β€œThe word on the scale” and shared it with my Patreon supporters (and later in the Body Liberation Guide), Taylor Swift has updated her video to remove the couple of seconds showing the word on the scale (without public comment).Β Here’s an update, plus part 4 of our series on body-positive business…

I chat with Alissa Rumsey about size inclusivity in business
| | | |

I chat with Alissa Rumsey about size inclusivity in business

From @alissarumsey: Building inclusive and fat-friendly businesses: why is so important (for us, for our business, and for the collective) and some things to think about when it comes to being inclusive in your digital/online space. Loved this convo with @bodyliberationwithlindley, who shared so much of her wisdom along with some practical tips. Lindley will be…

Lizzo and the flute + why feedback is a gift | The Body Liberation Guide
| |

Lizzo and the flute + why feedback is a gift | The Body Liberation Guide

Getting called out sucks. Complaints suck. Trust me, I’ve been there.Β But it’s essential to listen to and absorb feedback if you want to improve in how you treat other people, especially people with less privilege than you. Also in this edition: Lizzo and the flute Terms to know Nutrition and anti-fatness Upcoming events October free…

About body privileges | The Body Liberation Guide
| |

About body privileges | The Body Liberation Guide

I’m white. I have hair that falls into gentle waves with little to no styling. I’m very fat, but the way I carry my weight makes me look smaller than I am. My skin is mostly clear. I had braces as a teen, so my teeth are mostly straight. I can fit into the top…

Do you need to be an expert to be inclusive? | The Body Liberation Guide
| |

Do you need to be an expert to be inclusive? | The Body Liberation Guide

If you’ve been on the internet for a hot minute, you’ve probably heard of body positivity. The movement has some high-profile promoters β€” and a valuable outlook on the worth and beauty of all bodies. What does body positivity have to do with your business? Everything. By incorporating its principles into your business, you can…

Your fat activism guide to The Whale | The Body Liberation Guide
| |

Your fat activism guide to The Whale | The Body Liberation Guide

Hi friend, The big news in the fat-related world this week is Brendan Fraser’s hideously fatphobic new movie called The Whale. Since there’s been so much commentary, rather than including it in The Conversation section, I’ve given it its own list down in the Quick Resources.

Size contrition, part 3: Fuck flattering
| | |

Size contrition, part 3: Fuck flattering

As we consider the concept of size contrition, let’s look at the “fuck flattering” trend that’s been sweeping the body positivity movement. On its face, “fuck flattering” is a rejection of size contrition and the forbearance it can generate. There’s a great article by Alysse D’alessandro at The Body is Not An Apology that talks…

Fat-Positive Fine Art Print: Nature Gave Me Wings
| |

Fat-Positive Fine Art Print: Nature Gave Me Wings

Nature gave me wings. Who are you to bid me hide them? The woman in this photograph has glorious wings on her arms that she lifts towards the ceiling, looking out a window into a large covered open space, in this black-and-white-photograph. She is fat, has long hair pinned into a bun and is wearing…

A fat woman's body shown from the armpits to stomach, with pale skin and stretch marks. She is wearing a black bra and panties, and her image appears "torn" by the layout of the graphic. Overlaid is the title of the blog post.
| | |

Size contrition: the performance of a lifetime

Today I’m thinking about a concept I’m calling size contrition. Size contrition is what we fat folks perform in order to win small amounts of forbearance from thin people. In essence, it allows us to temporarily access aspects of thin privilege in return for our public recognition of and apology for our fatness. For instance,…

A set of mantras to improve and create positive body image, meant for plus-size and fat people.
|

Truths about my body | Positive body image for plus-size and fat people

My humanity gives me inherent worth. My body is worthy because it’s mine. My body deserves love, attention, and care no matter what. My body is worthy no matter its health status. My body is worthy no matter its age. My body can “pull off” anything I want to put on it. My body and…

Should healthcare providers be excused for weight stigma in medicine?
| |

Should healthcare providers be excused for weight stigma in medicine?

“They don’t know any better.” When I talk about weight stigma/weight bias and fatphobia in healthcare, that’s often the excuse that people make to me on behalf of healthcare providers. “That’s how they were taught.” In 2022, that excuse just isn’t good enough any more. Not only do we have a half-century of evidence that…

A background of autumn leaves with the name of the Exhale Pacific Northwest body positive and fat positive retreat and Laura and Lindley's illustrated profile images.
| | | |

Fat friend, you deserve connection, rest, and ease.

We know how heavy and exhausting existing in this world can be. We all carry the weight of holding boundaries, managing others’ entitlement, navigating systems of oppression, and all the other burdens fat folks are made to hold on a daily basis. We are tired! In a culture that has commodified self-care down to bubble…

AAAAAAAAA! I’ve done my first published book blurb!
| | | | |

AAAAAAAAA! I’ve done my first published book blurb!

AAAAAAAAA! I’ve done my first published book blurb, and it’s for Amanda Martinez Beck’s excellent new book More of You! Here’s what I wrote (plus extra text that was cut for length): “More of You grapples with some of the central conflicts of today’s body liberation movements. Beck’s religion informs her writing as she reconciles…

14+ Weight Neutral and Health at Every Size Resources for Managing Chronic Illness
| | |

14+ Weight Neutral and Health at Every Size Resources for Managing Chronic Illness

Some days, caring for our fat bodies looks exactly like caring for any human body. On other days, we may need a little extra something to carry on. When it comes to chronic health conditions, though, caring for a fat body can be very different. Why? Because fat bodies are subject to weight stigma: discrimination…

A photo of a teal blue birdbath full of water behind a yellow bar with the title of this blog post, which is a list of articles and resources for fat, larger-bodied and plus-size people for abortions in the United States.
| |

Post-Roe Roundup: Abortion Access Resources for Plus-Size and Fat People

I had a nightmare last night that I needed an abortion and couldn’t find the clinic. Lots of people are living that nightmare today. I made a post of all the resources I’ve been sharing on Twitter and in my newsletter. Many of them are for everyone, though some are specifically for plus-size and fat…