{The Body Liberation Guide} Should you use the word fat?
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{The Body Liberation Guide} Should you use the word fat?

Client J. at her Confidence session this week. I’m currently booking boudoir & portrait photo sessions» It’s been a few weeks since you’ve heard from me, and it was because I was out having a lovely time wandering around California on an epic road trip. I’m coming to understand that, just as much as any…

A dark blue background with this text faintly overlaid: "having privileges is not your fault - it does not make you a bad person - it is your responsibility to extend those privileges to everyone who lacks them." Layered on this is the first line of this post plus Lindley's logo and the words, "Why are you upset at fat people, rather than our oppressors?"
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Not all thin people

Let’s talk about a dynamic that we fat people who talk about fat constantly, endlessly, infuriatingly get from thin people: #notallthinpeople. Any time a fat person writes about discrimination, hatred, bigotry, or ill treatment at the hands of thin people, you thin folks get uncomfortable. Maybe your heart sinks a little, or your stomach gets…

{The Body Liberation Guide} It’s time for me to tap the sign
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{The Body Liberation Guide} It’s time for me to tap the sign

Client M. and their incredible sleeve tattoo. I’m currently booking boudoir & portrait photo sessions» Before we get to it, I have an extra unicorn chaser for you this week! Blanket Fort member Jeri Lynn is hosting an adorable batch of foster kittens and running a live cam so we can all enjoy their precious floof.  Also,…

{The Body Liberation Guide} But why DO people hate fat people?
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{The Body Liberation Guide} But why DO people hate fat people?

From a recent session with Kyra Sutherland of Joyful Divergence. I’m currently booking small business photo sessions » This week I have a Body Liberation Blanket Fort update for you before we swing into the regular letter.  The Blanket Fort is my fat-friendly and body-safe community that centers fat folks and welcomes everyone. And it’s going strong, with…

{The Body Liberation Guide} A celebration, a request, a frustrated grump and a note for supporters
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{The Body Liberation Guide} A celebration, a request, a frustrated grump and a note for supporters

A mother and daughter I photographed in Salt Lake City in 2019. This is a bits-and-pieces week: a celebration, a request, a frustrated grump and a note for supporters.  Let’s start with the celebration! Last week, the Body Liberation Guide went out to 5,317 of you. The rate at which y’all open these emails is spectacular, too – almost…

{The Body Liberation Guide} Doing the math
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{The Body Liberation Guide} Doing the math

A sneak peek of my shots from my dear friend K.’s wedding. I’m currently booking portrait and boudoir sessions» This week, I want to build a bit on what I told you in last week’s letter about how getting into media articles works. I talked a bit about the calculation that goes into responding to…

{The Body Liberation Guide} Do plus-size passengers deserve a bigger seat on a plane?
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{The Body Liberation Guide} Do plus-size passengers deserve a bigger seat on a plane?

An image I created at the 2019 NAAFA convention in Las Vegas, NV. Browse stock photos of fat people» The subject line of this email – Do plus-size passengers deserve a bigger seat on a plane? – is the title of an article in the Dallas Morning News in which I was quoted this week.  The article itself is pretty…

A dark blue background with this text faintly overlaid: "having privileges is not your fault - it does not make you a bad person - it is your responsibility to extend those privileges to everyone who lacks them." Layered on this is the title of the post plus Lindley's logo
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100+ Examples of Thin Privilege

“Privilege is a set of unearned benefits given to people who fit into a specific social group. Thin privilege is backed and promoted by a multi-billion dollar diet/wellness industry.” » Cori Rosenthal The longest-running series over on the Body Liberation Photos Instagram and Facebook pages is my thin privilege series. A common objection to the…

I guess we need to talk about NEDA | The Body Liberation Guide
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I guess we need to talk about NEDA | The Body Liberation Guide

A leafy summer botanical boudoir session with R. Learn more about my boudoir sessions » Hi friend, A quick note before we get started: I’m now on the new social platform Threads as @bodyliberationwithlindley. I guess we need to talk about NEDA – the (American) National Eating Disorders Association – today. Honestly, I was reluctant, because they’ve been…

A group photo of the crew at One Connection Healthcare, a Health at Every Size®-aligned primary care office in Ballard, WA
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The images we see—or don’t see—matter | The Body Liberation Guide

A group photo of the crew at One Connection Healthcare, a Health at Every Size®-aligned primary care office in Ballard, WA. Learn more about my small business photo sessions » Last week, I had the joy of attending this year’s Weight Stigma Conference. I tuned in remotely – the conference itself was in Denver this year, but for the…

A plus-size Black woman closes her eyes and smiles in the sunshine while holding a wing-pattern scarf behind her head in front of water and a cloudy sky.
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Black Voices on Juneteenth 2024

What is Juneteenth? Why do we celebrate it? And how can white people help Black people on this day without taking over? Juneteenth is on Wednesday, June 19, 2024. Since as of 2021, Juneteenth is now a U.S. federal holiday, more white people are aware of its existence, and thus more white people need to…

Then what am I supposed to talk about? | The Body Liberation Guide
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Then what am I supposed to talk about? | The Body Liberation Guide

I first wrote this piece in November 2020, but it unfortunately hasn’t lost any of its relevance, as Donald Trump continues to be in the news. (For folks outside the U.S., feel free to swap in any larger-bodied politician of relevance.) A perennial problem is cropping up yet again: the fatphobia of the American left….

The one with the broken-heart bullets | The Body Liberation Guide
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The one with the broken-heart bullets | The Body Liberation Guide

Once a friend of mine observed that in their daily life, they just felt like they didn’t see many fat people at all. And it’s true: fat people are often missing from public life, especially very fat people. Why might that be? BMI is bull, but let’s use the master’s tool for a moment to…

10 Tips for Making Your Weight Management Practice More Weight Inclusive | The Body Liberation Guide
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10 Tips for Making Your Weight Management Practice More Weight Inclusive | The Body Liberation Guide

One of the most important issues facing weight management, bariatric, dietetic, endocrinology, special interest groups, and other provider groups and practices today is weight stigma. It’s important to update your resources, handouts, training, certifications and other materials to remove stigmatizing language in order to improve patient compliance and positively impact clients.  Here are ten ways…

How to use the Southwest customer of size policy | The Body Liberation Guide
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How to use the Southwest customer of size policy | The Body Liberation Guide

Last week, I talked about a big negative of the trip I just took. This week, though, I want to share a big positive: Southwest Airlines’ customer of size policy.  Southwest is the only American airline that makes an actual effort to be good to fat people. They weren’t always this way; in fact, they used to…

The photo that got me harassed all week | The Body Liberation Guide
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The photo that got me harassed all week | The Body Liberation Guide

I’ve just returned from my first long trip during the pandemic. I traveled from the U.S. west coast to east coast for my sister’s MBA graduation. We come from a blue-collar background, she’s a single mom who fought every step of the way for this, and I’m so proud of her I’m about to burst. …

Football players and BMI | The Body Liberation Guide
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Football players and BMI | The Body Liberation Guide

Let’s talk about football players and BMI. When the topic of body mass index, or BMI, comes up, one of the first responses is usually someone pointing out that some very obviously muscular and fit people — like football players — are considered obese* by BMI measurements. And thus, the argument goes, BMI is a…

41 Fat-Positive Patreons to Follow and Support
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41 Fat-Positive Patreons to Follow and Support

With the major and still-growing popularity of crowdfunding subscriptions in supporting creators — from Patreon to Ko-fi to Instagram and Youtube subscriptions — it seems like everyone is offering one. That includes lots of your favorite body-positive, fat-positive, Health at Every Size® and body liberation creators. In fact, there are lots of reasons to financially…

The plus-size guide to period panties | The Body Liberation Guide
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The plus-size guide to period panties | The Body Liberation Guide

Maybe you remember the advent of (mainstream anyway) period panties from a few years back? For a long time, there were no options to speak of for fat bodies, but no more! With the help of my brilliant assistant Kit, at the link below are nine options to choose from, carrying a range of sizes…

Stop saying that weight loss doesn’t solve anything | The Body Liberation Guide
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Stop saying that weight loss doesn’t solve anything | The Body Liberation Guide

Here’s one concrete action you can take to help end weight stigma: Stop saying that weight loss doesn’t solve anything. And I’m going to need you to read alllll the way to the end of this letter before you @ me, because I am not jumping on the diet bandwagon here.

goals and farces | The Body Liberation Guide
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goals and farces | The Body Liberation Guide

Happy belated Trans Day of Visibility! Trans, non-binary and exploring folks are precious, valid and welcome. I see you.  Also, I’m seeing progress on my hand injury since getting a steroid shot a few weeks ago, woohoo! It’s not 100%, but it’s the closest it’s been since October. That means I’m booking photo sessions again — head to…

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Race, Weight and Oppression: Lindley on the Mindful Miri Podcast

It was a pleasure to appear on the Mindful Miri podcast! In this episode, we discuss issues of race, weight, and systems of oppression. Other themes: » Embracing our true selves » #bodypositivity for larger bodies » How systems are not built for all sizes » weightstigma as an offshoot of #racism Transcript Excerpt “It’s…

A white person's belly with stretch marks, plus partial views of their bra and panties.
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Weight-loss surgery, person-first fatness and a new narrative

Have you seen any of these messages lately, implied or said outright? Fat people are addicted to food Ob*sity is the opposite of anorexia Fat people will inevitably have health conditions due to their fatness Fat people are fat because they’re sick, not because they’re lazy, WLS, unlike dieting, is the one successful way to…

Lindley, a fat white woman with shoulder-length hair and glasses, stands in a garden wearing a dress and holding a pair of garden clippers. She's smiling mischievously.
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On the choice of “fatphobia”

Sometimes a stray comment or post on social media will spark something in my mind, and suddenly I have an opinion on it. This time it was a comment on a fat activist’s Instagram post informing the activist that they shouldn’t be using the term “fatphobia” because “people aren’t afraid of fat people, so it’s…

A fat woman wearing red panties poses to the side; the text reads "The Plus-Size Guide to Period Panties"
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The Plus-Size Guide to Period Panties

Maybe you remember the advent of (mainstream anyway) period panties from a few years back? For a long time, there were no options to speak of for fat bodies, but no more! Here are nine options to choose from, carrying a range of sizes up to a U.S. 48W. In case you’re wondering, period panties…

The choice of “fatphobia” | The Body Liberation Guide
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The choice of “fatphobia” | The Body Liberation Guide

Sometimes a stray comment or post on social media will spark something in my mind, and suddenly I have an opinion on it. This time it was a comment on a fat activist’s Instagram post informing the activist that they shouldn’t be using the term “fatphobia” because “people aren’t afraid of fat people, so it’s…

Your body image is not like my body image. | The Body Liberation Guide
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Your body image is not like my body image. | The Body Liberation Guide

This week on Patreon, I’m launching the Body Liberation Guide+, a patron-only supplement to the free public Body Liberation Guide newsletter (this email!) I send out every week. Here’s what you can expect in the BLG+:  More of The Conversation and event updates Handy links to this week’s supporter-only updates Journal prompts and discussion topics from the Body Liberation…

A neatly self-solving problem | The Body Liberation Guide
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A neatly self-solving problem | The Body Liberation Guide

If you’ve been a subscriber for a bit, you know I produced an entire guide to that awful fatphobic movie The Whale.   I’m not a pop culture kind of person and I don’t watch movies (due to my neurodivergence making it difficult), so I’d be perfectly happy never to think about that movie again. But with awards season…

This? Is not that. | The Body Liberation Guide
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This? Is not that. | The Body Liberation Guide

Here’s one simple action you can take to help end discrimination against fat bodies this week: Stop appropriating the experiences and oppression of people who are fatter than you.  If you live in a body that is of average size (the average American woman wears a size 14-18) or a bit larger (what some folks…

On sticking your neck out. | The Body Liberation Guide
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On sticking your neck out. | The Body Liberation Guide

Here’s one simple action you can take to help end discrimination against fat bodies this week: Stick your neck out. Quite often these days, thin (usually white) folks feel the need to message me and tell me about how they were going to speak up about this harmful action or that piece of fragility, but…

A fat white person's stomach rolls, tattooed arm and part of their bra-covered chest. They're at a body-positive portrait and boudoir session in Seattle.
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“Fat people who love themselves scare the shit out of people who don’t love themselves.”

“Fat people who love themselves scare the shit out of people who don’t love themselves. Even fat people trying to love themselves scare the shit out of people who can’t do the same. We force people to have to look at why they hate their bodies because we are “supposed” to hate ours and we…

Why aren’t we just celebrating?  | The Body Liberation Guide
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Why aren’t we just celebrating? | The Body Liberation Guide

It’s a privilege to focus on the gains of body positivity when fat people are still left out. One of the most common pieces of pushback I see against fat acceptance and the need to represent fat and very fat people is, “Why are you so negative? Can’t we all just celebrate all the progress…

Let me tell you what I would do | The Body Liberation Guide
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Let me tell you what I would do | The Body Liberation Guide

Often when I post about the way I as a very fat person am treated, I’ll get responses along the lines of, well, you just have to be confident and stand up for yourself and people won’t treat you like that. Or, here’s what I would do in that situation (insert behavior that’s very aggressive,…

You weren’t born with this | The Body Liberation Guide
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You weren’t born with this | The Body Liberation Guide

If you’ve been around here for any length of time, you know I talk a lot about anti-fatness, but I’m including a content warning today specifically for what I’m going to link to for its extremity. I had planned to send this letter to you today anyway, but coming across this video from a thin…

A magenta background with the words, Next time a fat person talks about weight stigma and your gut reaction is, "Well I'm fat and that's not a problem for me/I've never seen that," consider that you might not actually be particularly fat.
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The experiences of larger fat people are very, very different from those of smaller fat people and average-sized people.

The experiences of larger fat people are very, very different from those of smaller fat people and average-sized people. If you’ve never experienced, seen or heard of a particular type of weight stigma or an experience a fat person is describing, there’s a good chance you’re simply not fat enough to be treated that way….

What fat liberation means to me: It’s not just about “all bodies”
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What fat liberation means to me: It’s not just about “all bodies”

This piece originally appeared over at the NAAFA blog. Loving, admiring, and respecting fat bodies can be really hard for people to grasp. We as a culture have been trained by: Centuries of sexism and racism that women are sexual objects 75 years of diet culture that thin is beautiful and sexy And decades of…

Fat liberation: It’s not just about “all bodies” | The Body Liberation Guide
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Fat liberation: It’s not just about “all bodies” | The Body Liberation Guide

I hope you had a wonderful holiday season. Mine was spent mostly resting my hand and recovering from this tendon injury. I’m about 50% better – not well enough to book photo sessions yet, but quite a bit better than I was, which means there are a lot fewer cusswords drifting through the house as…

From my lips to your ears | The Body Liberation Guide
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From my lips to your ears | The Body Liberation Guide

This is my last letter for 2022; you’ll next hear from me on January 9. Tonight I’m headed to a Zoom cookie-baking event with friends, and have a nice quiet holiday planned otherwise. I hope that the rest of this month is filled with joy for you. As the Twitter chaos continues, more and more…

Exploitation cannot birth liberation. | The Body Liberation Guide
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Exploitation cannot birth liberation. | The Body Liberation Guide

I want to follow up on my previous Body Liberation Guide about AI-generated artwork. People who are into AI art are telling me that this is a chance for fat people to see themselves represented and change their body image. But there’s a problem: exploitation will not create liberation.

Body-positive business practices, part 5 | The Body Liberation Guide
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Body-positive business practices, part 5 | The Body Liberation Guide

Though I ended up catching the stomach flu* and having to rest and isolate for the last part of the retreat, our attendees had a fabulous time and it was such a satisfying experience. There really is no substitute for in-person fat community. (*confirmed by PCR testing that it wasn’t COVID)  Also, I’ve been featured in a…

Part 4 of body positive business practices | The Body Liberation Guide
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Part 4 of body positive business practices | The Body Liberation Guide

Since I first wrote “The word on the scale” and shared it with my Patreon supporters (and later in the Body Liberation Guide), Taylor Swift has updated her video to remove the couple of seconds showing the word on the scale (without public comment). Here’s an update, plus part 4 of our series on body-positive business…

I chat with Alissa Rumsey about size inclusivity in business
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I chat with Alissa Rumsey about size inclusivity in business

From @alissarumsey: Building inclusive and fat-friendly businesses: why is so important (for us, for our business, and for the collective) and some things to think about when it comes to being inclusive in your digital/online space. Loved this convo with @bodyliberationwithlindley, who shared so much of her wisdom along with some practical tips. Lindley will be…

Lizzo and the flute + why feedback is a gift | The Body Liberation Guide
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Lizzo and the flute + why feedback is a gift | The Body Liberation Guide

Getting called out sucks. Complaints suck. Trust me, I’ve been there. But it’s essential to listen to and absorb feedback if you want to improve in how you treat other people, especially people with less privilege than you. Also in this edition: Lizzo and the flute Terms to know Nutrition and anti-fatness Upcoming events October free…

About body privileges | The Body Liberation Guide
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About body privileges | The Body Liberation Guide

I’m white. I have hair that falls into gentle waves with little to no styling. I’m very fat, but the way I carry my weight makes me look smaller than I am. My skin is mostly clear. I had braces as a teen, so my teeth are mostly straight. I can fit into the top…