Maybe you just didnβt want to shimmer badly enough.
What would happen if paint became a Big Thing?
In fact, what would happen if one specific paint brand became a Big Thing, to the exclusion of all else?
What if that paint brand became so popular that you were expected to use it in every room of your house? To the point that visitors wouldnβt come past the threshold if they didnβt see it on the walls of your foyer?
To the point that delivery drivers would dump your packages on the sidewalk in disgust if they peered in your windows and didnβt see that paint in your living room? To the point that people would ask you in casual conversation which brand you used, and scold you if you named a competing brand?
What if you lost friends and family members over whether your bedroom was painted in the right brand?
What if your βincorrectβ preference for other paint brands made your life harder in a dozen different ways?
But how would anyone even know which brand of paint youβd used? Letβs say that this paint, unlike any others, has an unusual and beautiful shimmer to it, a distinctive look that would instantly tell anyone looking that youβd used this brand.
Except that 95% of the time, the paint doesnβt actually work. Oh, it goes on your walls just fine, but it doesnβt shimmer. It just looks like ordinary eggshell paint, no matter what you try. You invest in tutorials and watch hours of Youtube videos, apply half a dozen coats, and getβ¦plain paint.
When you contact the company, the company shrugs and says you must be applying it wrong.
When you talk about it on Facebook, youβre met with a barrage of scorn, because your concentration and willpower in applying this paint clearly werenβt up to the task (since, after all, it isnβt shimmering).
Everyone seems to know the solution to your lack of shimmer:
> Maybe itβs because you didnβt let the paint dry slowly enough.
> Maybe itβs because you didnβt use a hair dryer to make sure the paint dried fast enough.
> Maybe it was too humid on the day you painted. Or too dry.
> Maybe you didnβt set your intent carefully enough before you opened the can of paint.
> Maybe you added one too many coats. Or one too few.
> Maybe you didnβt really want your walls to shine.
Everyone elseβs paint seems to shimmer. Every lovely interior design photo you see online features shimmering paint. Every friendβs house you visit sparkles gently. Youβre bombarded with advertisements for that paint brand. Itβs all over Instagram. Shimmer, shimmer, shimmer.
Whatβs wrong with you?
Hereβs what you donβt see: The friends who arenβt inviting anyone over for dinner because their walls stubbornly refuse to sparkle. The people who took triumphant photos of their shimmering home offices, only to walk into the room after a week and discover that the shimmer was gone. The Photoshop and video effects being lavished on Instagram posts and advertisements to disguise the fact that not even company-paid influencers or the company itself can get that paint to shimmer most of the time.
I trust that youβve figured out this is a dieting analogy. It doesnβt work at least 95% of the time, and yet weβve set up an entire hierarchy that places smaller bodies over larger ones and asks the impossible of big bodies: that they shrink to fit an arbitrary standard.
Your walls are worthy and functional, even if they donβt shimmer.
Your body is worthy, even if dieting hasnβt worked for you.
Warmly,
Lindley
Hi! Iβm Lindley.
Iβm a photographer, author, cat mom, subscription box creator, and fat activist.
I help people reclaim their bodies through photography. I capture images of people of all sizes, ethnicities and genders, not just the ones whose bodies are likely to be seen in magazines and advertisements.
Every week I talk about topics like this in my free Body Liberation Guide.
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Hi there! I'm Lindley. I create artwork that celebrates the unique beauty of bodies that fall outside conventional "beauty" standards at Body Liberation Photography. I'm also the creator of Body Liberation Stock and the Body Love Shop, a curated central resource for body-friendly artwork and products. Find all my work here at bodyliberationphotos.com.